If you’re still in the honeymoon phase, it’s best to wait until it passes before having any serious talks about living together.Every relationship grows at its own pace, and moving in may try to push it to too high of a level too fast.Last night, as a 33-year-old single woman living in the ginormous city of Jakarta, I found myself talking about dating and relationships with my girlfriends probably for the 10th time this week. Since moving here from San Francisco three years ago, I've been as single as I was back in San Francisco circa 2013 or bumble-eff-nowhere Waterloo circa 2010.If not via actual face-to-face dinners/lunches/brunches, these conversations are held through messaging, emails, what have you. And I've learned a thing or two about things that are not really helpful for you to do if you're single like me. But it's exhausting to hear this when you're out and just trying to have a good time.And if you're the more guarded and picky type like I am, finding that special someone could take some time, but it's completely worth it.For me, the "I want to date this guy" moment didn't happen until sophomore year of college, when I was 20.You didn't want to waste time with the might-have-beens, the jerks, or the players — reasons I actively avoided dating in middle school and even high school.Although many people would argue you have to date around to truly discover what you want, I can confidently say when you know, you know.
I call it a privilege because nothing puts things into perspective like feeling as though you have hit rock bottom.
People certainly love talking about this subject with me, and (I assume) all other single people.
Dropping everything in your life to make it all about finding your soulmate (barf) is a ridiculous concept and makes you undateable, super boring, and somewhat creepy.
That sounds like a difficult-and-guarantee-you'll-fail job for anyone to handle.
Please continue to do fun things on your own or with your friends. I recently tried belly dancing and signed up for archery -- all while still working and hanging out with people in between.
I also think I wouldn't want to be with someone who doesn't really have a life of his own.