To date successfully you can’t be holding your dinner companion responsible for the sins of an ex.
Give your date a fair chance, not comparing him to those who’ve come before. Try not to rush the get-to-know-each-other process.
Don’t assume you and your partner see things in the same way or that your partner can read your mind. Moments will arise when your judgment about your partner will be put to the test. Like you, your partner is imperfect and deserves the benefit of the doubt. Keep in mind that a good relationship is based on each person’s ability to be supportive of those differences.
It is not possible that your “I” and your partner’s “I” will be perfectly compatible.
The paradox is that your maturity offers you many advantages over the youthful daters. Knowing yourself better and being able to size up others more skillfully gives you a big advantage. You likely have greater financial freedom to enjoy fancy dinners and getaways. You are more sexually confident and liberated than you were in your youth. Physical appearance, the type of car one drives and other status symbols take a back seat to more important personal attributes.
The days of scraping together enough money for a movie are over!
Maybe you’re divorced and frustrated with dating or haven’t ventured back out to the dating pool.
You could be a widow and unsure of ever finding another man like your husband.
As a dating coach for women over 40, I know finding love the second time around (or even the first) is not easy.Still, people fall in love every day and many of my clients do find that loving man. This might seem harsh, but you are likely telling yourself several lies about love after 40 that are hurting you.These negative beliefs prevent you from connecting, or worse, stop you from even looking.Following my recent post about dating in London in your thirties, a blog reader contacted me to ask if she could shed some light on online dating in your forties. I’m not looking to get married or have babies – I’m now in my 40’s and have a completely different approach. I’ve got a Nokia 3410 which just makes calls and texts. Up until this point I’d always met guys in bars or clubs and been approached – never the other way around. I read the recent blog about dating in your 30’s and HAD to write about my experiences. It’s 2012 now and I haven’t so much as spoken to a man I don’t work with for over a year. I go on a very wide range of dates with guys from age 23 upwards. It’s fun for a while but then things start to turn weird.